Reasons Victims Struggle to Get out of Domestic Violence

By Fadaka O’ Adetu

 

Domestic violence has claimed many lives and there have been cases where the victims just for some reason are unable to get out of the abusive relationships. There is no better way to put this ‘if he can abuse you, he probably does not respect you’. Domestic abuse just does not happen overnight; you were probably not paying attention to the warning signs. Relationship at its early stage is usually filled with plenty of emotions and feelings that are capable of clouding your sense of judgment. Several factors could have contributed to the reasons you have been unable to spot the red flag from the beginning and moreover, it can be difficult to see through a man who has a hidden agenda. Your man can change especially when life happens and things appear not to be going in the direction he has planned. But this is not even an excuse to make hell out of a woman who has chosen to walk the journey of life with you.

Domestic violence can be emotional and physical. It can have a long and lasting impact even after the victim has been rescued. Sacrificing your well-being as a lady for a short gain will only put you in a dangerous and vulnerable position. There is no fun in having access to all you have always desire only to end up being abused. Regardless if you are currently experiencing domestic violence or not, getting to know the reasons victims of domestic violence find it had to leave could save you and your loved ones. So what are some of these reasons?

1. Lack of support

Not having people who can stand for you can be truly depressing. Lack of support can make you begin to think that you will not get justice even if you choose to walk away. Tip: Check your local authority or institutions, there are so many out there who will be happy to support you (use your internet). Be wise to keep your records- That is all that matter in the court of law.

2. Fear of Lack/Poverty

When you end up with him because of his wealth and somehow scared you will no longer have access to all that you enjoy at the moment if you choose to walk away. Tip: Get yourself to start doing something that will help you make your own money. Learn a skill if you have to. Real men respect women who are independent.

3. Fear of Being Hurt

He threatens to hurt you badly if you make any attempt to walk away. Tip: You should know him better than anyone else. Find the best time to get the law enforcement agencies involved. Do this with caution so that you do not put yourself in further danger.

4. Fear of Culture and Tradition

You find it hard to walk away because your culture and tradition say no and do not support such a decision. This is your life and you should not live it in accordance with practices invented by fellow humans. Be bold enough to distance yourself from any tradition or culture that does not work for you. Tip: Seek help from people who do not practice your tradition for help or put up the courage to walk away after all this is your life. Speaking to anyone that practices your tradition will be a waste of your time.

5. Living in Self-Denial

Any man that loves you will not subject you to domestic violence. Do not live in denial to think that your man abuses you because he loves you or cares so much about you. That just does not add up. Tip: Get a life coach or counselor. You need another independent mind to access your situation and tell you if you are making the right decision or not.

There are many other factors that I have not mentioned here but you can do your own research and learn more. Domestic violence will only tear you apart. Get the necessary help you need before it is too late.

Final Note: Victim of domestic violence can also be a man.

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